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Wednesday, June 24, 2015

100 Year Old Wisdom Still Stands Today

As far as possible one should not interfere in the affairs of others.....Bagavan

Recently, an employer mandated client was ordered to anger management for an altercation that was ignited as a result of 'gossiping'.  The tension between the two employees resulted in a confrontation right in the hub of the workplace. I cringed from just listening to the story.

As the employer mandated client was recanting the details it motivated me to go back to an article I recently read on the ills of gossiping. I was motivated to find the 19th century etiquette book. "American Etiquette And Rules Of Politeness".  Rules for everyday proper behavior in 19th century life. 

I found the passage called, "Don't Gossip' surprisingly current for 21st century work/life.
"Be Free From Tattling". "Do not inflict upon society and another member of that despicable and dangerous species called Gossipers. That tongue that carries slander and defames the character of others is as dark as sin itself. Always be careful in your conversations not to dwell on what you heard somebody say about somebody else".

Moral of the story is stay out of other peoples business. Don't partiscipate in negative stories and don't pass those stories around. Gossip has a long fuse that eventually ignites. Gossip is never helpful or productive as in this case of the gosisiping employees who brought the whole workplace down in 10 minutes.


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Sunday, June 7, 2015

Anger Is Normal

ANGER is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive. It should be differentiated from THE ANGRY REACTION which is a behavior pattern that is usually learned in early childhood and which is the aggressive reaction to the perception we are being attacked. That attack is most commonly verbal, but can also be physical, psychological or emotional.

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Monday, May 18, 2015

The Energy Drain Of The Little Stuff

According to the patent filed in 1891 toilet paper was intended to be placed on the cylinder and used as "over" rather than "under".
This has been a looooong standing argument among people literally around the world. People have VERY strong opinions about "over" or "under". Personally, it matters that there IS tissue.  For those that are "stuck" on "right" and argue to the death on a position you got this one.
 For me "right" is not all that it's cracked up to be. Sometimes you can be "right" and just let things go. Some things are just not worth the time and energy to have an argument about.
Make a decision as to if you want to go to the places that "little stuff" can take you.
You have a choice of" how to spend your energy. Is it worth it???
Truth...........as I see it.........

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Saturday, February 21, 2015

To All Employers

Treat Employees like they make a difference and they will!

Thursday, January 22, 2015

What Is A Level B Instrument

In previous blogs I have talked about being an evidence based practice (EBP) with an assessment that is categorized as a Level B instrument but what is a Level B instrument and what does that mean?
A, " Level B instrument" means that the assessment that I use has been designed and constructed in a way that meets psychometric standards; and the person administering the assessment has been trained and certified to administer.
Sounds all impressive although what does "psychometric" standards mean ?
Psychometric standards means that the assessment tool that I use has met  rigorous research requirements, examination and testing and is a reliable and validated document. Just for the record a validated assessment and that is any assessment does not necessarily mean it is a Level B Instrument.
Now, to put all this information together. The Anger Management Institute uses an American Medical Association (AMA) approved  tool called the Bar-on2.0 emotional intelligence assessment.  This assessment that I administer is regarded as one of the best assessment tools for moving clients forward from where they are to where they need to be.
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